Now that Alopecia Awareness month is upon us, what are you going to do to celebrate?

Here are a few ways you can take part:

• Buy your tickets to the Let Your Hair Down Event in New Jersey to benefit the National Alopecia Areata Foundation! You'll be able to visit with me, and my gorgeous flower girls!!!
• Contact your local school and ask to make a presentation on Alopecia to a classroom. Every little bit helps!
• LIKE the Children's Alopecia Project on Facebook to stay up-to-date with their events! Several are happening this month ALL over the country!!!
• Attend one of the NAAF events as they have paired with Major League Baseball Teams across the country! Find your local team, and attend!
• Post your story online so others can learn about Alopecia! If you post it in the Facebook Group, "Kayla's Corner for Women & Kids with Hair Loss" you could be featured as my next guest blogger!

So what will you be doing this month to bring awareness to Alopecia?

Log on to Facebook, join the group, and let us know!

Happy Baldie Month!!

-Kayla

My goodness, I can't believe it's been so long since my last post! Much has happened in the past few weeks, and hopefully I will become a stronger woman from them.

Life brings along many hardships, as we all know. And I have always been proud to say that of all the obstacles I have worked to overcome, my hair loss is one that I think of less and less. Every person will face challenges, and if you are reading this blog I presume that either you or a loved one will have to face the challenge of losing your hair.

A few years ago I used the phrase, "it's just hair" or "I'd rather lose my hair than have ____," (you get the point). And while I continually focus my references in a general direction, so as not to offend someone, today I stand by those statements.

My mother has been diagnosed with cancer, and it has already begun to spread. My father is mentally disabled and unable to work or drive as a result. And I have a portfolio full of conditions that makes me afraid to walk or run alone, just in case I pass out. Admittedly, these last two sentences may seem minor in the grand scheme of things, but this is proof to me that my hair loss falls short in the book of my worries.

So, for those of you who have said, "Yes, I might be bald but at least I'm not _____," or ".... at least I am alive and healthy," -- good for you! Don't apologize for that. That is your own journey, and your own way of viewing your hair loss. I commend you for your optimism; please don't ever change it!

And for those of you who have hair loss at the top of your list of worries, please know that that is okay, too! We all have our own stresses- our own mountains to climb.

But, if this it at the top of your list, I encourage you today to take a moment and find the good in what you have been given to deal with. Find a moment today to be grateful that if you do have Alopecia, like me, that it isn't life threatening. It may be life-changing.... It may totally suck sometimes.... but it isn't __(fill in the blank)  .

Before I run, I want you to know that this is not meant to make you feel bad for any struggle you may have with your hair loss. We all struggle. I struggle with different things every day. All I ask is that as a group, in honor of Alopecia (aka Baldie) Month, you take a moment to find gratitude for the fact that we are alive, that a cure is on it's way, and that we have each other for support!

Many blessings,

Kayla

Back to School

As much as I don't want to say it... the summer is almost over, and school is nearly back in session.

I received an email and related posts on the Facebook group asking for tips for teens heading back to school with changes in their hair loss. Some are heading back with less hair, some with more hair! And as a teenager, it can be overwhelming to anticipate the reactions of your classmates with any kind of change- especially one that sparks sensitivity.

I've always worked under the belief that full disclosure gets you further when it comes to your hair loss. Typically people are more understanding and empathetic when they are given a full introduction to change. Let's be honest... teens are nosey. They want to know what is going on with everyone. So, you can choose to either put it all out there, so there is nothing left for them to question and rumor-spread. Or, you can let them assume what they want and not let their whispers bother you.

You need to question yourself and ponder what approach you feel most comfortable taking.

I know I have friends out there heading back to school with a brand new wig! How exciting!!! Change is always fun, and hopefully your new hair is helping you to feel all the more feminine, confident and beautiful! Let's be real with each other- if you've been attending the same school for eight years and spent the last four bald, some people are going to notice that you now have long blonde hair. But, that isn't such a bad thing! You might want to let your peers assume your hair grew back, a move on with your life without publicly acknowledging your Alopecia. That is totally fine!

Don't forget that plenty of your peers are going to come back to school looking and acting differently! Some will have new clothes, new hair styles, new friends, new relationships and beyond.

So let's consider your other options! You might want to open up to your classmates, and clue them in on the change so that there isn't an elephant in the room for the rest of the year. If that's the case- how do you approach it? When do you tell them? And how on earth do you drop a huge bomb like that on people you haven't seen all summer??? Don't worry!!! That's why we all have each other- so we can share what has and hasn't worked for us. I can share my own stories, and make suggestions, but ultimately the choice is yours! Talk it over with your biggest supporters- your friends and family. They know you best, and they are familiar with what works for you.

Should you choose the full disclosure route, I say there is no better time than the present to get the ball rolling. Don't build this "coming out" to be an earth shattering event- we've all had to do it. I remember when I told the Miss Delaware judges I was wearing a wig, or when I took my wig off at a high school graduation while I was speaking, or when I told a new employer about my hair loss. And here I am today, a champion of all that!

Why not share a fun email to your best friends pre-semester and show off your new look. Let them know what has changed, but also, what you've been up to all summer! Tell them you can't wait to see what this year has in store and that you are so thankful to have the greatest friends on the planet!

You could also wait until school starts and on the first day back share with your newest and/or closest friends what is going on. Basically, I would say, "So, a lot has changed since last year. I now have an autoimmune condition called Alopecia Areata/Totalis/Universalis. Basically it just means my hair falls out as if my body is allergic to it. Don't worry- it isn't contagious! And, thankfully, I have no other symptoms! So... what are you thinking?"

You could also introduce the wig, if you are now wearing one. "So much has changed since last year! Obviously, I have a new du! My hair started falling out in ____ and I decided to try something new!  I have Alopecia Areata/Totalis/Universalis which is an autoimmune condition that causes my hair to fall out. But, don't worry! It isn't contagious, and I am going to be just fine! So, what do you think?"

Next, you should decide if you would like your teacher to introduce your Alopecia to your classmates, or if you would prefer to take care of it on your own, OR let nature take its course. Again, talk with your parents and get a family-game-plan. Your teachers just want to help, and naturally, they are going to worry about you. I suggest you at least let your parents write a letter to your school nurse, and your teachers to let them know of the changes in your condition or introduce it to them. The more informed they are, the more helpful they can be for you!

If you have any specific questions, or would like some opinions on how to approach this- feel free to send me a direct Facebook message or post on the Kayla's Corner Facebook Group! We are all here to support each other and many of us have been in your shoes!

Tweet your questions or suggestions to @MissDelaware10! I can't wait to hear from you!

Upcoming Event- Alopeciapalooza 2012!!!

Hi everyone!

This month has just been a whirlwind with lots of traveling and a minor summer flu! Kevin and I are leaving for our honeymoon in just a few hours to celebrate our new chapter with a week away!

Since I was unable to attend the National Alopecia Areata Foundation's Conference this year- which happened to be in my neck of the woods- I surely cannot miss my other favorite summer Alopecia event!! Alopeciapalooza 2012 is going to be hitting North Carolina in just two weeks!!! The Children's Alopecia Project hosts this uniquely awesome camp where tons of kids get to hang out for the week and, you'll never believe it... SURF!!! Yep, that's right. These beautiful baldies are going to be hitting the waves (or whatever the appropriate term is!) and making some moves in the water. :) The kids aren't the only ones who will be surfing... The other speakers and I have somehow been convinced to board up and learn to surf right along with the kids.

Now, I'm not sure how this is going to go.. But I can't wait to find out. Learning to surf is on my bucket list, so North Topsail Beach... here I come!

During our time at Alopeciapalooza kids and families alike can hear speakers such as Amanda Altice, Margaret Baker, Laura Carr Hudson, Dr. Patricia Tager, Georgia Van Cuylenberg and many more! Some of the topics include a discussion on treatment options and research directly from a dermatologist, raising your child to be as self-confident as can be, and how to spot a bully. I'll also be speaking based upon the topic, "Finding the Normal in Alopecia: What Makes Me, Me".

Clearly, there is a lot in store for the week! But, that's not it... Kids will be fishing, touring a turtle sanctuary, paddleboarding, playing in a family volleyball game, enjoying a big bonfire and bocce all and, of course, surfing!!!

Best of all, kids with Alopecia get to be surrounded by a group of fellow baldies who can all relate to each other. What could be better?

If you are interested in learning more about the Children's Alopecia Project, who hosts Alopeciapalooza- or in attending next year- visit www.children'salopeciaproject.org

So who will I be seeing in North Carolina?? Visit Kayla's Corner on Facebook and let me know!

I'm off to get my base tan before this terrific camp, so I'll see you all there! Have a great week, and special thank-you to CAP Founders, Jeff and Betsy Woytovich (and their lovely daughters) for including me in my second Alopeciapalooza!

Be sure to follow me on twitter @MissDelaware10 for all my fun tips and questions.

Upcoming Alopecia Events!

Hey everyone!

In the coming months, there are quite a few major Alopecia Areata events you should mark on your calendars!

1. On July 14th  there will be a CAP Kid Picnic in Limerick, PA! Just come to Manderach Memorial Park, Swamp Pike and Ziegler Rd, Limerick, PA between 3-7pm! Everyone is welcome to bring a side, dessert, or drinks to contribute to the picnic. Contact  betsywoytovich@yahoo.com for more info!
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2. Annually, the National Alopecia Areata Foundation hosts a conference in a different city where tons of baldees can meet for a whole weekend of fun. People from all over the world who have Alopecia (of any kind) travel to attend the conference, meet others who can relate to them, learn about the latest research and even meet vendors who offer hair solutions or solutions to common issues.
July 19-22, 2012 NAAF will be hosting the conference in Washington, DC. Among the benefits mentioned above, attendees will also have the chance to lobby for funding for research for a cure!

If you have never attended the NAAF Conference, or haven't been in a while, I definitely suggest rearranging your schedule! Visit the link provided for further information, and see if you could rearrange your schedule to visit with me in 13 days!

3. Alopeciapalooza is an annual camp hosted by the CAP- Children's Alopecia Project! Betsy and Jeff, who run the organization, are complete sweethearts and they have a passion for making every kids camp experience as FUN as can be! They have daughters of their own, and Maddie, their middle daughter, happens to be a fellow baldie! I caught wind this morning that camp is sold out for this year! Bravo to CAP! But be sure to check back in the coming months for info on Alopeciapalooza 2013! I leave in about a month for North Carolina to attend my second CAP Camp!

4. NAAF Bowling Event in Tucson, AZ on Saturday August 4th from 12-2pm! What a fun way to meet other people with Alopecia and even introduce your kids to other kids!

5. One of my favorite events of the year is the annual Let Your Hair Down Gala to benefit the National Alopecia Areata Foundation! The event this year will definitely be one to remember! Mark your calendars for October 19th and plan to bring the whole family to New Jersey! Lilliana, her sister Isabella and I will be the stars of the evening along with some special surprise celebrity guests! Kids are welcome to come. Stay tuned for more information as we get closer!

If you are hosting an upcoming event, please share it with us on the Facebook Group, Kayla's Corner for Women & Kids with Hair Loss! I hope you are all staying cool and enjoying the gorgeous summer! After a few days without electricity during the heat wave, we are thrilled here in the DC Suburbs to have air conditioning again. I have been spending lots of time traveling lately, including in a few days in NYC, a few days in Delaware and some time teaching my modeling students at Barbizon!

See you next week!

Love,
Kayla

Research vs. Support

Happy Monday everyone!

Lately there has been so much chatter about the differences among organizations related to hair loss, and the varied approaches they take. Some focus specifically on Alopecia research while others focus directly on support. Which side do you stand on?

Within the Alopecia Community there are a handful of prominent organizations. Later, I will post a blog for each of the organizations to highlight them individually! The National Alopecia Areata Foundation is the most commonly known within the United States for being a source of support and research. But, the Global Alopecia Mission was created recently based upon gaps the creator has seen in NAAF's research efforts to find a cure. Then, there are organizations like the Children's Alopecia Project that primarily focuses on the support of children coping with their hair loss.

With any situation where there are several organizations working seperately to meet the needs of one community- there will be issues. Some coexist very well and even choose to support each other. I know that the Children's Alopecia Project encourages families to be involved in whatever programs meet their needs. NAAF feels the same way- if a child would like to attend the NAAF Conference and Alopeciapalooza (CAP Sponsored Children's Camp), then they should!

When it comes right down to it, the question one should answer for themselves is- which is more important to you, research for a cure or support?

Now you might be thinking- why do we have to choose? I agree! In a perfect world we could have both. Some believe they have found just that within the National Alopecia Areata Foundation. Others feel that NAAF is not putting enough funding into their research.

Would you rather an organization hold frequent fundraisers and solicit donations to faciliate legitimate research so we may better understand Alopecia Areata? Would you rather "move forward" and focus on maintaining or creating a positive outlook while meeting others who can relate to you?

Naturally, only you can answer that.

Join the conversation on the Facebook Group- Kayla's Corner for Women & Kids with Hair Loss! Or tweet your thoughts to @MissDelaware10. Be sure to follow our updates as well @hairlossdotcom

Have a great week everyone!

Catchup Session

Hello Friends!

My-oh-my, I can't believe it's been a month since my last post! I apologize for being MIA for a bit, but with final exams, last minute wedding preparations and two weddings in one month... well, let's just say I've kept busy!

There has been an outpouring of love and well wishes from all of you which warmed my heart just as the wedding came around. Thank you all so much for your sweet messages! Everything was so wonderful on Saturday and I am proud to say that I am now a wife!

I will be sure to post more pictures from our incredible photographer, Gary Nevitt Jr., as soon as they are finished.

Lilliana and I both wore hair from Gemtress on the big day, and Mario at Salon Rispoli in Newark, DE styled us to the nines! All I asked was that he be sure we looked natural and felt comfortable (and like ourselves).

All of my bridesmaids and Kevin's and my mother had their hair styled at Salon Rispoli on Saturday and Lilliana and I were able to walk around and keep everyone laughing since our hair was styled and waiting for us!
I have some great blog posts in the works, so be sure to check back again next week! I have a full, behind-the-scenes look into our wedding with the makeup and hair tricks we used. Also, we have a response to some of the negativity that has been posted online regarding the approaches to hair loss.

Again, thank you all for your love and support as Kevin and I start our new life together!

Love,

Kayla

Tape, Adhesive or none- What's your preference?

Tape...glue...nothing- what's your preference?

     When wearing a hair piece, you have several options to feel secure. Most women, who have total hair loss and choose to wear a wig, opt for a piece they can tape down. You are probably thinking, Why?
     The answer is, security. Knowing the wig is taped down means it isn't going anywhere. But, it also provides flexibility. This means you can take the wig off at the end of the day, or after a few days, and it doesn't have to be a full-on, traumatic process.
     The Gemtress Firenze (my current "signature" piece) can easily be taped down. For a woman with Alopecia Areata, tape may not be the best option, though. My hair comes and goes, so the Firenze is a great choice for me- I can tape it down when my head is smooth, but it is fitted enough that I can (and often do) go without tape!
     When it comes to tape, you can definitely shop around. Ask your wig consultant for suggestions based upon the piece you've purchased, and your lifestyle. Some women prefer "wig tape" or "toupee tape" which is ideal for someone who prefers to remove their wig every day or every other day. This is often rather inexpensive, and is less sticky. Industrial strength tape from a craft store is a valuable option for someone with a smooth head because it offers a stronger hold with longer results. It is a little more painful to remove because of the bond, but I have heard it gets less and less painful each removal! Tape is an option for you to apply and remove yourself- without a professional.
     At the Miss America Pageant, I was so terrified of my wig flying off and into Joy Behar's face during the talent competition, that I asked Mario Rispoli to "bond" the wig to my head that night. This means that he used a custom fit piece, created perfectly for the shape of my head, and covered the inner cap with a liquid bond/glue so that I felt secure. Bonding/gluing is the perfect option for someone with Alopecia Totalis/Universalis or extensive hair loss that leaves your head smooth for periods of time. It is not ideal for a woman with Alopecia Areata or frequent regrowth. The reason being when the wig is ready to be removed it will be a much more painful process if it could potentially pull out new hair. Plus, new hair can loosen the bond.
     Bonding can last up to a few weeks depending on your level of activity. If you shower frequently and don't use a shower cap, the water can loosen the bond. If you exercise daily and sweat heavily, the perspiration will loosen the bond as well. I suggest using a shower cap and washing the hair every couple of days. Use as little product as possible in order to lessen the need for washing. And when exercising, consider using a sweat band right around the hairline of the wig to absorb as much sweat as possible. As long as the hair is human, you will be able to live just like the hair is your own! Sleep in your wig, wake up with it and so on!
      For those who wish to have complete flexibility- the ability to throw on and off your wig/s as you please- tape and bonding are not for you. I appreciate the moment when I get home after a long and exhausting day, and I throw my wig on the kitchen table. I appreciate leaving my wig on the passenger seat of my car before I enter the gym to workout. Tape and bonding are not a part of my everyday life. But, I love knowing that I have the choice!
      The Firenze, and all of the other pieces in the Gemtress line, fit my head well enough to not need tape or glue. And if they become stretched over time, Mario darts them and sews them to fit just like they did on day one- prolonging the span of the wigs life.
      However, if you opt for a bonding of some sort, you should know the best way to remove it! When the time comes to take it off, you can either revisit the salon and have it removed there. Or, you can use 100% rubbing alcohol and a q-tip as you gently rub along the hairline to remove the bond- pain-free!
     So, in your life, what do you prefer? What have you tried? Join the conversation and share your experiences on the Facebook Group, Kayla's Corner for Women and Kids with Hair Loss! Have a great week, and enjoy the beautiful weather!

Guest Blog: Melissa's Story

Hey everyone,

Below you will find the story of my friend, Melissa, who also has Alopecia. Her experiences are different than mine, which is why I thought they were perfect to share! Best of all, she has her eyebrows tattooed, which has been a hot topic lately that I have no experience with! She was kind enough to be so open, and has said she will answer any questions you may have on the Kayla's Corner Facebook Page! Just be sure to tag @Melissa Palmieri!

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 Melissa- Living with Alopecia

When I was in the sixth grade I noticed that I didn’t have any eyelashes. I didn’t think much about it at the time because I didn’t know any better if it was normal or not to not have them. By my freshman year in high school my eyelashes had grown back. One day during tennis practice I had pulled my hair back and my friend asked me why I had a bald spot, I said “I have no idea”. That night I went home and showed my mom. She then scheduled a doctor’s appointment at a well-known dermatologist in New York where I got diagnosed with Alopecia Areata. The doctor prescribed me Protopic cream that I applied twice a day to the bald spot. It grew back within a couple of months. I went 7 years without my Alopecia acting up. It wasn’t until January of 2011 when my Alopecia was triggered from Lymes Disease. I had completely lost all of my hair by the summer time including eyebrows and eyelashes as well.

I now have had Alopecia Universalis for over a year. Since last March I have invested in a ton of wigs; both synthetic and human hair. I purchased my human hair wigs from Hair in a Pinch located in Edison, New Jersey. I have nothing but great reviews for them. They provide one-on-one assistance to help you find the perfect wig for you. They also do wig alterations so that your wig is the perfect fit for whatever size and shape head you may have. I also have synthetic wigs as well which are great to have because some are heat friendly and are very affordable. I buy all of my synthetic wigs from a cosmetic store called Merle Norman. Again, another great place especially if you are looking for something more affordable because human hair wigs tend to be more expensive.

I recently just got my eyebrows tattooed since I do not have any eyebrows as well. Prior to tattooing my eyebrows I was using temporary eyebrow tattoos that I would purchase online from Headcovers.com, however putting them on everyday got tiresome after a year because they would only last for the day. While I was getting my nails done at Christie’s Nails; a local nail salon located in Manayunk (a small town in Philadelphia) she noticed how I didn’t have any eyebrows and told me how she tattoos eyebrows, eyeliner, lip-liner etc. She showed me pictures of prior clients she tattooed which all looked amazing. Christie, who is the owner of the nail salon and who tattooed my eyebrows discussed different shapes that would look well and then once we decided she then drew outlines of them with lip liner and then proceeded to tattoo them. To draw the outline of the eyebrows took about 30-45 minutes. Since they are permanent she wanted to make sure they were even and perfect. The tattooing then took about an hour and a half to 2 hours. I have to say it didn’t hurt for the first hour but after a while since I have sensitive skin it did start to burn because my skin was irritated. It was $350 which includes the first touch up as well which you get anywhere from 4-8 weeks after you first get them done. The healing process is just like any regular tattoo where they will scab after a few days and peel. After the first touch up they can last several years until another touch up is needed. I highly recommend Christie if you are interested in the tattooing route. I couldn’t be happier with my eyebrows. It is so nice to wake up in the mornings and not have to put them on everyday now. Above are pictures of myself with my tattooed eyebrows. I will post an updated picture once I get my first touch up so everyone can see the true color that they will be.

            I never thought how hard it could be to not have any hair and how something so little such as your eyebrows and eyelashes could make such a difference in appearance. Each day that has gone by has gotten easier for me. Without the support and dedication from my amazing family, friends, and boyfriend I wouldn’t be as confident as I am today.

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I love how much we actually have in common! Don't forget to visit the group Facebook page and post any questions you have for Melissa. She is the sweetest person with such a terrific outlook!

See you next week!

-Kayla

Does money play a factor in how you cope?

Hey everyone!

We've talked quite a lot about wigs, and their role in the way we all handle our hair loss. And we have talked about the different types of wigs and hair replacement options available. We've briefly noted the variety in treatments as well. But, rarely have we discussed the investment in each of these.

When I was younger, I chose to try cortisol injections for approximately six months. My mother researched to see if our medical insurance would provide any coverage for the treatments...
Our family has always been very financially conscious, and naturally the finances would play a role in whether or not I choose to try something new that isn't proven to help.

Thankfully, my mother researched and discovered that our medical insurance provided minimal coverage of the cortisol injections- so I though I should give them a try!

After quite a few rounds of treatment, and seeing quite a bit of growth- I knew we had made the right choice to try something new! But, when I ceased my treatment routine, the new hair fell out. It was then I knew that I didn't want to put forth the money constantly to go through that pain for the rest of my life.

And when I started searching for wigs, money was my second largest concern. First, was that the way look and feel natural- otherwise it wasn't worth any amount of money to me. Budget was such a large stressor that not only did my parents, friends, fiance', and in-laws-to-be chip in... But so did many of my Miss Delaware supporters like my local director/mentor, Laura Mattey (who introduced me to Mario!). It was quite a communal effort. Without so much support, I would not have been able to afford such a beautiful hair piece. But my experience is proof that anything is possible!

Every route of coping with your hair loss may involve money. Whether you choose to wear a wig, wear false eyelashes, seek medical treatment or homeopathic treatment, or even flying to a national conference to attend support groups and  informational sessions- all involve a financial commitment. Some more than others, of course- but, money nonetheless.

How does money play a role in the way you (and your loved ones) cope with your hair loss? Do you stray away from the more expensive options like Custom Fit European Hair Wigs? Do you jump at any opportunity that is within your budget- like fad diet changes, natural vitamins or boxed synthethic wigs?

Does money deter you from coping the way you would have hoped? Or do your finances help you by showing you there are always new doors to be opened?

I would love to hear what you think! Please join the Facebook Group- Kayla's Corner for Women & Kids with Hair Loss
or tweet your thoughts to @MissDelaware10

Sending love and best wishes to you!
-Kayla

How has money played a role in the way you cope with your hair loss?

Tips for the Salon Owners

Not sure how to make your hair replacement clients more comfortable?

Here are some tips directly from women with hair loss

1. Privacy- Have the ability to create a separate room for your hair replacement consultations? Privacy is the #1 concern of women when they visit a salon for the first time. If your salon acts as a full service salon, then women are less likely to feel comfortable in front of the rest of your clients. Don't have the space for a separate room? Consider offering a before-opening or after-closing appointment to your clients if they aren't comfortable. Or, set aside a specific time for these appointments when other appointments won't be taken. Remember, there is no way to avoid taking the hair on and off in the salon during a consultation, so please be sure to warn them of this for their appointment.
2. Options- not only in design but also make and most importantly, cost. The shops who offer bonding and non bonding options as well as human and synthetic hair are my preferences for referalls. OnRite offers a large variety of wigs for women of all ages, and children. They even have hair replacement options for men that are the most natural I've ever seen. A great tip is to have several options on site in case a woman wants to try something on during her appointment. Have a blonde, brunette, black and grey option. At least one long and short, one curly and one with bangs. Have at least one of the higher quality and one of the less expensive. And in my opinion, have one from the Gemtress line, and one from the Gem Kids line.
3. Comfort- Make the women as comfortable as possible. Be understanding. Be a listener. In many cases, you will play the role of friend/confidant/supporter beyond your duties as their stylist. This is likely a very difficult process for them emotionally. Some women come alone and need you to give them your honest opinion about what looks good, what they can afford, what they can care for, etc. There will come a point when you should worry less about the sale or the profit, and more about her comfortability. A comfortable and happy customer will come back for her second wig and provide referalls to friends. When clients bring in their wigs for repair or touch ups, offer them a separate area with snacks where they can wait, so they don't have to go out in public if they don't want to.
4. Patience- This could be their first time purchasing a wig. They may have a stack of medical bills waiting at home. For children, this could be very uncomfortable and way beyond their own maturity level to accept the changes they are going through. For a woman, this is a huge piece of what defines them as a woman. You should remember that you may not make a sale that day. I wasn't able to decide in one appointment. Wigs can be expensive, and they represent a great deal of change in a person's life. Aside from being understanding, you must be patient. Allow the client to go home and talk to their loved ones about the decision. Please don't pressure them. Just call them the next day to let them know you are thinking of them, and appreciated their trust for such an important time in their lives. If you don't hear back within two weeks after that call, try calling again to let them know you'd love to have them back and try on another option.

5. Be open to customization- a woman doesn't want to just feel like "Priscilla" or whatever the name of the styled wig is... she wants to feel like herself! Every client, including the ones who want hair replacement for style reasons unrelated to health and medicine, want to look their very best. I know that when I went to Salon Rispoli, I wanted my wig to look how my hair did before it fell out. Mario created a wig with high and low lights and then cut and styled it on my head. Because of that extra step, he made me feel like he really cared. Plus, I loved the finished product! Customization make take extra time, but it is worth offering! Ask you clients if they would like any color work done, or a certain hair style. Just because it is a wig, doesn't mean it should look like one!

6. Give back- Consider making a donation to a worthy foundation such as the  National Alopecia Areata Foundation, the Children's Alopecia Project, the American Cancer Society, and so on, for every hair replacement sale. If a woman sees that a local shop not only offers a great selection, but also gives back money to a cause close to her heart then she is more likely to choose you over another salon. Or, you could put a large portion of your proceeds from those sales into a scholarship fund for a future customer who cannot afford a wig.

**Also, consider offering other hair replacement options in your salon. Many women need hair extensions instead of wigs. Some want eyebrow pencils, eyebrow temporary tattoos, false eyelashes and so on. One stop shopping can relieve their stress and create a more trustworthy atmosphere!

Remember, when a customer is going through chemotherapy, their hair loss can be very sensitive to them. They are going through so much in their life and the last thing they should have to worry about is their hair- make the commitment to provide comfort and support. Help them feel like themselves again.

And remember- when a customer has Alopecia Areata/Totalis/Universalis, they may be dealing with it for the rest of their lives. The more comfortable you make them, and the lower your prices, the more likely they are to return! The average Alopecia patient goes through three wigs a year- if you treat them well, you may benefit in the long-term!

Have other tips? Leave a comment at Kayla's Corner for Women & Kids with Hair Loss! Looking for a trustworthy salon to meet your hair replacement needs? Visit Hairloss.com's provider directory!

Have a great week everyone!

Hugs from DC!
-Kayla

Sick Days Suck.

So, for the past few days I've had what might be the beginning of the flu or some sort of virus. I had a day in between where I thought the symptoms had subsided, but alas, they are back. Whenever I have these days where I feel like death, the icing on the cake is looking exactly as I feel.

If you, too, have lost your hair, you are probably well-accustomed to the random stares of people who assume you have cancer. For those of you readers who have undergone chemotherapy treatments, I can't imagine how you deal with those stares all the time... But for those of you with Alopecia of any sort, I am sure you just wish you could wear a sign sometimes that says, "I'm not sick." (or something of that nature)

Well today I decided to go ahead and attend my classes as usual even though I was vomitting throughout the night. I woke up with limited strength, not even feeling up to showering. So of course, I threw on a clean pair of sweatpants, brushed my teeth, and headed out the door leaving behind any eyeliner or wigs...

Honestly, we all have those days where the last thing we feel like doing is worrying about anything other than getting two feet out the door. And even though I keep most of my wigs styled on a mannequin, I just didn't feel like taking the moment to throw it on. So, off I went without hair or makeup...

Now I know I don't deserve a Nobel Peace Prize for this since I do this all the time, along with thousands of other women... But, when you aren't feeling so well- people can tell. So while on campus a woman came up to me and asked what kind of cancer I have...

It's been a while since I've been asked that question... But my hair has started to fall out again so I shaved it this weekend. And my face was stripped of color and life was probably draining from my eyes because of how I felt. I'm sure each of those played a factor. Over the past thirteen years, I've been asked quite a few times whether or not I have cancer. But, since it had been a while, it got me thinking!

I don't want you to think the moral of the story is to go out and get even more dolled up when you are under the weather- I just wanted to share a story that I am sure most of you ladies can relate to! We are all human, and we all have yucky off days where we simply feel like curling up under the covers and hibernating for a few days. And if you are like me and makeup and wigs feels like too much for those days, then more power to you :)

On a personal note- my temperature has leveled out and I kept down some soup for lunch, so I think I am on the road to recovery! :)

So let me ask you- how do you respond to those awful sick days? Do you typically push through and put on the eyeliner and your wig or do you go out as is and let people think what they want?

Leave your thoughts on Kayla's Corner of Facebook! And don't forget to follow me on twitter @MissDelaware10 or the rest of the crew @hairlossdotcom

Adult Q & A

Hey there everyone!

I decided it was about time to answer all of your questions in one, fun blog post! Over the past few years I have received emails and Facebook messages with some really great questions, and I figured, if one person is curious, others might be, too! Don't worry, I've left them anonymous.

Just a heads up- these are mostly adult-related questions, so wait for a later post to read the kids version of the Q&A :)

1. Should I workout in the gym with my wig on? What do I need to do?
   This is definitely up to you! I never workout with my wig on but I have danced with it on for several performances (including the Miss America Pageant!). If you do opt to wear your wig during a workout (and don't use and adhesive) I suggest you plan ahead and put some baby powder on your scalp to absorb extra moisture. Also, maybe consider using tape if you are afraid the wig could fall off during the commotion.
2. Has anyone ever accused you of trying to draw attention to yourself on the days you don't wear your wig?
   Never! But I have worried about that before, so I completely understand your thought. When one of my best friends got married she told me that I could come without my wig (since she loves my natural look!) but I was too afraid it would seem like I was trying to draw attention to myself. Most people don't over think things as much as we assume they do. Wear your wig whenever you see fit. If you don't feel like wearing it, your friends will applaud your confidence and strength for wanting to be without it that day.
3. I've had my wig for three years now, and keep trimming the ends. How do I know when enough is enough and I need to buy a new wig?
   I had my first wig for two years and Mario Rispoli kept trimming the ends for me until finally the length that I loved was gone. We decided it was time to donate the wig to a local women's cancer center when the hair was chin-length and the cap was stretched out. At that point, I decided it was time for a  new wig. I suggest you purchase a new wig as soon as you can (no urgency) and transition into the new one. That way your current wig is still wearable and your don't have to move on so quickly to a new style.
4. Is it wrong to not tell a guy about my hair loss when we first start dating?
   Of course not! No one expects you to share your complete medical rap sheet with them on the first date. But, for the sake of your future relationship, I suggest being as open and honest with him as you can. Maybe mention that you have (insert condition here) and see if he knows anything about it. This could be on your second, third, even fourth date. Then open the dialogue and see where it goes. Trust your instincts.
5. How should I keep my wig on during sex?
   I say, treat sex the same way you would exercise! If you prefer to tape your wig while in the gym, maybe you should in the bedroom, too. If your wig is well fitted and does not need any tape on a daily basis, then it should be just fine. Just know, things happen, and it could slip off. Consider looking into either a well-fit wig with the resistance strips structured in the cap to keep it from slipping. Otherwise, tape is the best (worry-free) option.
6. I bond my wig and it gets so uncomfortable and tacky in the heat- what should I do?
   You may be using too much adhesive. If you are using tape, this may be due to the quality of the product. A good trick is putting the tape a little further back so you can lift up the hairline and dry off any sweat. In the meantime, try a different product.
7. I get red bumps on the bald spots on my head- is this normal?
   Yes! Some people's skin is a little more sensitive than others. Give your scalp some time to breathe (from products and wigs). If you have been using the same kind of soap for ages, then it's safe to say you aren't allergic to it. But still there is a reason for the irritation. Your scalp is skin, just like the rest of your body's surface so be sure to gently wash it and moisturize when necessary. Use sensitive skin products and be gentle with it. Don't treat the bumps like pimples! If the bumps worsen or spread, make an appointment with a dermatologist.
8. I've had Alopecia Areata on my head for years, now I have no hair in my female area. Is this normal?
   Yes! Don't worry, the nature of AA is that it is unpredictable. This could include change in size of bald spots, change in location of bald spots and so on. Unless there are other symptoms that are worrying you in that region- I'd say you are just fine!
9. I have AU and sometimes get red bumps on my skin in all sorts of places. How do I know if they are pimples or something else?
   Just like friend #7, you have a tricky (but worry-free) situation. It is hard to tell the difference between a minor irritation, a pimple, an ingrown hair and so on. Be careful what products you use on the area- but never try to "pop" the bumps on your head, as if they are pimples. You can get infections this way or cause worse irritations. Assume it is just a minor irritation and wait for it to take its course. If it spreads, is painful, grows or worsens in any way, make an appointment with a dermatologist.
10. Everyone thinks I have cancer. People pay for my coffee all the time. Do I accept the gifts or tell them I don't have cancer? (From a woman with Alopecia Totalis)
    I get this question all the time, so you aren't alone! This is another case of, do what makes you most comfortable. I've had this happen to me plenty of times, and it never gets more comfortable to approach. I do believe honesty is the best way to handle it because it  gives you a chance to educate one more person- BUT, if you have two kids with you tugging at your pant legs and tearing down store shelves and you urgently need to vacate the premises, by ALL means... let them think what they want!
    
    
    I hope this answers the questions you sent in! Thank you (so much) for you candor and honesty! Feel free to send me a message with your questions and I will answer them all anonymously in another post! Be sure to follow my twitter updates @MissDelaware10 and join the Facebook group, Kayla's Corner for Women & Kids with Hair Loss for great conversation and support! Looking for more information on your hair loss questions? Visit hairloss.com!

Synthethic vs. Human Hair (Part One)

When a woman loses her hair, she has a big initial decision to make, regardless of her circumstance.

Should I buy a wig?

If you decide- yes - I suggest your first step be to figure out your price range and decide how much you would like to spend on a piece. Every woman's circumstance is different- if you are going through chemotherapy, you may not want to make a large investment in a hair piece, because your hair loss could be short-lived.  But, if you have Alopecia Universalis, you might want to consider something with long-term benefits.

You have probably already figured out that synthetic hair is typically substantially less expensive than human hair. The reason for this is because synthetic wigs are not always made with the same integrity that human hair wigs are these days. Most synthetic hair is heat sensitive, which means you should put away your straighteners and curling irons! Also, it is rare that you find a synthetic wig with the ability to be customized in color and style. However, if you purchase a synthetic wig you are less likely to create serious damage to the quality of the hair because you won't be coloring it, applying heat or over-styling!

Some synthetic hair wigs may seem a little shinier than human hair wigs, but ultimately human hair wigs can get "greasy" if not washed regularly, which results in extra shine. I like a little shine in the hair because it makes it look healthier! Just so you know, synthetic does not mean your wig needs to look fake!!! There are enough affordable options out there for you to find the right one for you- don't settle!

In my opinion, synthetic hair is the perfect option for someone with short-term hair loss, someone with a lower budget, or someone who isn't quite sure what they want just yet! Because of the reasonable and affordable costs of synthetic wigs you could even opt to buy a few different styles and colors to change your look! Why, you could have a brunette bob one day and be a Carrie Underwood, blonde bombshell the next for less than the cost of the average human hair wig!

For me, human hair has been (hands down) the best option. Yes, it may be a little more costly... but I consider it to be a worthwhile investment! I wanted to know that I could change my hair style regularly, have "roots" painted in and low lights to give a more natural look, and I loved the idea of a custom fit wig! Human hair wigs need to  be treated very similar to that of a traditional person's hair. They need to be washed every now and then, they need moisture so they don't dry out, and they need to be trimmed to rid pesky split ends. But hey, if you haven't had hair in twelve years, like me, it isn't so bad to drop my wig off at the salon every other month to be "freshened up"!

With that being said- both synthetic and human hair are worthwhile options for any person! I own two synthetic pieces that I wear every so often! The largest factor in deciding between the two is cost. Yes, you can find reasonably priced human hair wigs! But, if you want to have a few different pieces in your repertoire to alternate between, or if you'd like to give wigs a test run- synthetics are definitely the way to go!

Both types are offered with well structured caps to keep you as comfortable as possible. Both are available in a variety of hair colors, so you are sure to find a close match to the color you want or had! Both can be lightweight (or heavy), as well as breathable. The biggest thing to understand is that you will never know how you feel in them until you try them on.

My suggestion is to visit Hairloss.com's Provider Directory, and find one of the affordable retailers new you. Note: if there isn't one listed for your area, send me a message and I would be happy to find someone near you that you can trust! Next, start thinking about your price range and budget. Then, right down a list of what is important to you to find in a wig. Take that list with you to the shop, and decide with the retailer if a synthetic or human hair wig is the best option for you.

Do you have a favorite kind of wig? Or are you just beginning the process and are trying to figure that out? Visit Kayla's Corner for Women and Kids with Hairloss on Facebook and let me know what you think! Have a great week everyone!

Just for fun... Do you think these are synthetic or human hair? Answer here

Does America need a Bald Barbie?

I haven't purchased a doll in such a long time! But, I do know there are many options out there for young girls to choose from. You have Bratz dolls (ironically named), Princess Diana dolls, and now maybe even Kardashian dolls. Little girls love to have a doll that resembles who they want to become, or someone they love and admire. Why else would a little girl buy a Cinderella or a Kardashian Barbie? You can find brunette dolls, blonde dolls, ethnic dolls, movie-themed dolls, career-influenced dolls, and so many more. When I was younger, every mother wanted to buy her daughter the doctor barbie, or some sort of career barbie with hopes that their daughter could begin imagining themselves in that path.


Recently, there has been a push for Mattel to create a bald Barbie doll. When reading this, I'm sure most of you are thinking- what an amazing idea! Why wouldn't they create it??? My thought was, why would anyone be opposed to this?


To my surprise, there are people out there who have shared a few negative points on the internet. I firmly believe everyone has a right to their own opinion, and I would never force my opinion upon someone else. But, I hope that giving a little insight into both sides of the field, will help people better understand the need for a bald Barbie, or lack thereof.


On the down side, some people believe it makes light of the severity that is behind most hair-loss-inducing conditions. Another point- will this bald Barbie theoretically be undergoing chemotherapy? Does she have Alopecia Totalis? Is she Britney Spears on an off day? People want clarity.

The biggest worry is that a company will reap the benefits of this beautiful symbol and that it will be created in vain. But, if they opt to create this doll, and then donate the proceeds to a worthy cause- will people be disappointed if the money goes to cancer research rather than a children's hospital,  or to Alopecia research instead of Trichotillomania support? My thought is that any money raised and donated to a worthy cause is completely worth the while.


I think the greatest gift that this Barbie could offer will be acceptance. For a young girl to own a bald Barbie, and see her as beautiful, would be a huge step. And the young girl whose mother is undergoing chemotherapy treatments could see that a bald head should not invoke fear. This doll could be a sense of hope and comfort. And for the girl who lost her hair from Alopecia Universalis to see that she can be beautiful and happy, just like this Barbie, may set the tone for her own outlook on the rest of her life.


Mattel has been notified of the "Bald Barbie Movement" and responded to the LA Times by saying,

"Mattel appreciates and respects the passion that has been built up for the request for a bald Barbie doll. As you might imagine, we receive hundreds of passionate requests for various dolls to be added to our collection. We take all of them seriously and are constantly exploring new and different dolls to be added to our line. "

I say, now is the perfect time for a beautiful, bald doll! Every child at the Children's Miracle Network Hospitals, every child at the National Alopecia Areata Foundation's Conference and every woman who has lost her hair from one condition or another would never forget this gesture of showing America that even the most iconic representative of perfect beauty can be bald, too.

What do you think? Is it time for a bald Barbie? Or would trouble lay ahead? Comment on the Facebook Group, Kayla's Corner for Women & Kids with Hair Loss or Tweet me @MissDelaware10!

   

Women and Chemotherapy

“There are studies that show that for many women, losing their hair is worse than losing a breast. That's because you can conceal the loss of a breast, but hair loss is so obvious and apparent. ” -
Marisa Weiss M.D., Breastcancer.org president and founder, breast radiation oncologist, Philadelphia, PA

To mark the end of Cervical Cancer Awareness Month, I thought it would be the perfect time to feature a Q&A with a woman who has overcome her own battle with cancer. I know this blog often features stories or suggestions for those diagnosed with a form of Alopecia, so I wanted to create something for our friends who have lost their hair from another common cause- chemotherapy treatments.

Everyone knows that chemotherapy treatments are the most commonly known treatment for cancer, which aim to kill the cancerous cells that are rapidly spreading. Among the varied side effects of chemotherapy is hair loss, which some refer to as their "scarlet letter".

According to BreastCancer.Org,

Hair loss occurs because chemotherapy targets all rapidly dividing cells—healthy cells as well as cancer cells. Hair follicles, the structures in the skin filled with tiny blood vessels that make hair, are some of the fastest-growing cells in the body. If you're not in cancer treatment, your hair follicles divide every 23 to 72 hours.

But as the chemo does its work against cancer cells, it also destroys hair cells. Within a few weeks of starting chemo, you may lose some or all of your hair.
You may gradually notice the hair loss, or it can happen very quickly. Every person responds differently. Some people lose the hair on the top of their head only, while others may lose their eyelashes, eyebrows and other body hair as well. The bright side- your hair will grow back!

Although I have never personally undergone chemotherapy treatments, my grandmother did, as well as my best friend's mother. I decided that since I am no expert on the topic, I wanted to interview a woman who won her battle with cancer and was generous enough to open up with me about her journey.
Here is her story:

KM: If you don't mind, will you share how you were first diagnosed?
LK:  I was first diagnosed on July 5th, 2009. I was losing weight with other symptoms. I knew something was wrong; they told me I had Hodgkin’s Lymphoma.
KM: And what was your first reaction?
LK: When I was first diagnosed I was numb. The first thing I thought of was death. My grandmother had just died a few months before. I felt my world had stopped spinning. I couldn’t think, eat, breath or sleep. I was living a nightmare.
KM: When it comes to all that you have to deal with (treatments, doctor’s appointments, regular life, and so on) where does/did hair loss fall on the list of struggles/obstacles for you?
LK: I felt like it took away my beauty; like a piece of me had died. I didn’t want to face the public, my friends or my family.
KM: When you lost your hair, did you ever go around without a wig? If so, how did you feel when people would see you just as you were?
LK:  I would never go in public without a wig for a very long time. I thought people would think I was ugly and would stare at me.
KM: When you were first diagnosed, was losing your hair a fear that you had?
LK: Yes, it was one of my biggest fears. I tried to go as long as I could before I had to shave it.
KM: How did your hair fall out? Was it progressive, or all in one timeframe?
LK: The high doses of chemo made my hair thin and it just started falling out in clumps.
 KM: Now that your hair is growing back (Yay!!) has the texture or color changed?
LK: It came in alot darker and very thick.
KM: Did your hair loss impact your mental state while going through treatment?
LK: Yes, I was very depressed. I would even refuse to look into the mirror.
KM:  What helped you accept your diagnosis? What about your hair loss and any other symptoms?
LK: You. I saw your beautiful face and I thought, Wow. Finally I’m not alone. If she can do it and be a beauty queen, maybe I can too.
KM: If you could give advice to another woman overcoming cancer, what would it be?
LK: Your beauty is deep inside of you. Although you may think you are ugly, it gets better. Try on wigs and just have fun with it. You may find you are sexier than you ever realized.

I know that a diagnosis of cancer is terrifying- not to mention life-altering. The thought of having to lose a piece of your femininity, on top of it all, is not the cherry you would have picked to go on top. But, with the help of a great community (online, local, national), and a dose of positivity/faith you CAN get through this. Focus on your health- not your hair. Your hair can be the least of your worries. Keep checking back for helpful suggestions or referalls on how to cope with the loss of your hair and be proactive. Join the Facebook group Kayla Martell's Corner for Women and Kids with Hair Loss for more support, and (sometimes) fun discussion!
Have any tips for how you coped during chemotherapy or questions for others? Comment there, or Tweet me @MissDelaware10.

Special thanks to LK for being so open about her journey through chemotherapy treatments. YOU have helped others to know they aren't alone. It warms my heart to know that I have been able to help someone in any way, just like you have today. Many blessings for a continual recovery.

Job Interviews: Wear the wig or no?

If you are a blog follower or friend of mine, you already know that I do not wear my wig everyday. And, in a previous blog entry I mentioned that while in college, I attend the first day of every semester without my wig for a variety of reasons. As I prepare to enter the "real world" and ready myself for internship interviews, I had to take a moment to consider whether I should wear my hair in a job interview, or not.

There are pros and cons to both sides, of course. But, ultimately I suppose it rests on your own personal comfortability. For me, the decision is even more difficult because, depending on the day, I may show up to work with or without my hair. So, they should be prepared to see me either way! As a broadcasting-hopeful, I completely understand the necessity to remain constant with my appearance so as to be recognized day-to-day by my audience. But, until then, I have the freedom to choose my "look" based upon my mood, my outfit, the weather, and so on!

I don't think there is a perfect solution for a situation like this! So I am curious what YOU think. Have you chosen to attend job interviews with, or without your hair?

If you do wear your hair, do you tell the potential employer about your hair loss? Or, wait for the day when your hair is at the shop to come au natural and surprise them?

It is my belief that you should look and feel your most confident in any interview- and  if that includes a wig, a full face of makeup and a fabulous new suit- so be it! In my interview for the job of Miss America, and the job of Miss Delaware 2010, I opted to wear my wig. But, I did include in my pageant-resume that I have Alopecia Areata and spoke about my hair loss in the interviews. All other job interviews, I have gone sans-wig. But, I'm not sure what I will do in the future! Broadcasters have their "signature look" and should that include my wig, then it will be part of my interview attire.

Why don't you stop by our Facebook group, Kayla's Corner for Women and Kids with Hairloss, and join the conversation? Or Tweet me @MissDelaware10 to let me know what you think.

Eyebrow Raising

In my adult life, I don't often find myself complaining about my hair loss. But, I won't hesitate to share when I notice any loss of my eyebrows or eyelashes! Eyebrows really are the frame to your face, and without them, I usually feel a little incomplete- visually, that is!

I have tried all sorts of products, and I am certain that many of you have, too. There are temporary eyebrow tattoos, eyebrow pencils, powders, and even permanent eyebrow tattoos. Each offers something very different, with quite a different commitment. For those of us who have Alopecia Areata which has a tendency to come and go, nothing with any permanence would be worth the pain! But, for those with lifelong Alopecia Universalis- I can see why they would seriously consider it!

So here is my take on your different options:

• Permanent Eyebrow Tattoos- typically performed by a professional tattoo artist. Can be obtained at some salons, and many tattoo parlors.
  The upside- you will have eyebrows all day long, all night long! No worrying about applying when you wake up, or sweating them off while you workout. Plus- they last a long time! And, they can look very natural when done properly.
  The downside- The pain. The pain. The pain. No permanent tattoo is painless. Come on- it's a needle!
  Suggestions- Find an experienced artist who can show you photos of their eyebrow work. Once it is done, it's done! No undoing this procedure! At least without another investment. Also, be sure to meet with them to have a trial where they can paint or draw on your brows- so you know how they will look. When it comes to something on your face- I suggest that you not allow cost to be a deterrent. If you have found the artist you love and trust, but know there are cheaper artists out there- save up the money and wait until you are ready.
• Eyebrow Stickers or Temporary Tattoos- these can be applied each day, and removed when you wash your face. Can be ordered online.
  The downside- You can feel the stickers as you wear them. They don't often look as natural, either.
  The upside- Not a huge financial investment. Can be something you try once, and decide if you like them! Best for those with total eyebrow loss.
  Suggestions- Ask around. I cannot personally suggest a brand or type, because I have never found one that I like. Maybe some of my readers have? Leave a comment here or join the Facebook group, Kayla's Corner for Women and Kids with Hair loss and comment there!
• Eyebrow Pencils/Pens/Stencils- For anyone with total eyebrow loss, that is terrified to trust themselves with drawing on their own eyebrows- the stencils are a terrific option! They serve as a guide for you, so the shape can look professionally done.
  The downside- I find no downside with stencils, other than you may need to shop around to find the perfect shape for you. But pencils can be smeared or wiped off easily. Pens are less likely to smudge, but a little more intimidating to apply than the pencil.
  The upside- there are so many stencil shapes and pencil/pen colors available that you can find the perfect combo for you! If you are comfortable you can go sans-stencil and draw on your eyebrows solo. Plus, they provide flexibility if your eyebrows come and go, like mine.
  Suggestions- Shop around. Look for stencils online to get your best deals. Pencils are easy to come by in a multitude of colors. Be sure to keep your pencil sharpened for precision! My favorites include MAC and Makeup Forever. Go into the stores to have a professional make a color suggestion.
• Eyebrow Powders- Great choice for those who have eyebrows that come and go, or still have some existing eyebrows- like me!
  The downside- They don't stay on your skin very long. They can fade by nightime. Also, the lines are less precise than a pencil (which can be a good or bad thing depending on your preference).
  The upside- They are the easiest to apply! Great for beginngers, or people like me who have some existing eyebrows! No need for a stencil.
  Suggestions- Same as the pencils, basically. Shop around to find the best color for you. MAC colors are my favorite because of their high pigment quality. The higher the pigment, the less you use, the longer the kit will last. Worried about the color? Go into the stores to have a professional make a suggestion. Last- find the right brush for you, the brush is the second most important part!

I decided to call on two friends of mine, who are professionals in the makeup industry, to make a few suggestions.

Tiffani Mitchell of NARS Cosmetics says her top suggestion is the Anastasia Brow Kit. "It comes with stencils, powder and a brush to make sure you are getting the right shape. Incorporate either the Anastasia Brow Wiz Pencil or the MAC Twist Up Pencil to mimic actual hairs," she says.  When asked what powders she suggests, she was beyond  helpful, by suggesting powders specific for each hair color! Make your choice based on the color of your wig that day, or if you go sans-wig, you can play around with your natural born shade! 

According to Tiffani, these are the best powders for your hair color:

-Light Blonde: MAC "Cork"
-Medium Blonde/Light Brunette: NARS "Blondie"

-Brunette: NARS "Bali"
-Dark Brown/Black: NARS "Coconut Grove"

When it comes to applying powders, brush choice is everything. Tiffani suggests MAC Brushes 208 (this is what I use!) or 266 for the most precision.

Josh Collier, a Trainer for Hourglass Cosmetics and Smashbox, AND makeup guru/v-logger, says his top pick is Smashbox's Brow Tech Trio. "Not only does it come in 5 different shades, but each shade contains two separate colors. So you can get a more natural effect, since hair has highs and lows through it naturally. Also, half of the pan is a wax, it will groom any existing hairs into place and also create a tacky base for the powder to adhere so it will last longer on the skin," Josh said. I can't wait to try this!

So, what is your preference?

Check out the products linked in words above and below, and let me know what you think! I am a pencil and powder girl, all the way. But I am curious what you have tried or are hoping to try!

Eazy Brow- Recommended by NAAF- 10% of proceeds go to the National Alopecia Areata Foundation

Beauti-Full-Brows- Recommended by NAAF as another Alopecia supporter!

Be sure to join the conversation on the Facebook Group, "Kayla's Corner for Women and Kids with Hairloss" to share your thoughts! Questions for the Pros? Leave them there, and I will forward to Josh and Tiffani!

 

 

This one is for the mother's

Hello friends!


I have been moved to, yet again, veer away from the planned topics after receiving a new message this weekend. A mother of the most adorable little girl sent me a message which conclusively brought me to tears. Knowing that I have become a woman that a mother would love for her daughter to look up to, truly warms my heart. Ultimately, her message proposed a question, asking for advice on what she can do as the mother of a girl with Alopecia.


Instantly, I thought of calling my mother- which I still do about ten times a day. But, instead I decided to respond from my heart and reflect on my mother's role in the outcome of my journey thus far with hair loss.


As a child, my mother and I would have weekly mother-daughter-date-nights on Sunday evening. Sunday mornings we would go to church as a family, visit my great-grandmother in the afternoon (after she passed we had Nutcracker practice or 4-H meetings, depending on the season) and then we would drop my dad off at home and go have a weekly girls night. We would go to dinner and talk about whatever was going on, and then go see a chick-flick that night. Even during my strange phases as an early teenager, when I drove my mother crazy, and swore she was driving me equally as crazy- we still made this a weekly occurrence.


In sixth grade, when I was first losing my hair, my mother took an approach which shaped the woman I have become. She decided to take me to every doctor she could find, stay up until 5am reading articles about Alopecia and even went out and purchased me the best wig she could find in our area. But, she never made me do or wear anything; she was never forceful. She allowed me (my confidence, my comfort level) to be her guide, and although I was young, she supported whatever I decided.


At first, my mother wanted to come into my classroom and explain Alopecia Areata to my peers. She wanted to be sure that I wasn't being teased at school and felt that if my classmates understood my condition, they would be less likely to make fun of me. When she spoke to me about doing this, I asked her not to see it through. I told her I would feel more comfortable explaining it to my classmates on my own, than having my parents come in to do it for me. She supported my decision even though I'm sure it wasn't easy for her, and trusted that if it didn't go the way I planned it, we could always take another approach later.


Then, I gave a presentation to my class as a part of a science project. We were asked to research a disorder and give a presentation about it. So, I gave my presentation on Alopecia calling it, "Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow." My classmates were all so supportive, and even though I am sure some kids may have said things under their breath, I never felt ostracized.


Time passed and even though my mom purchased wigs for me to try on, she let me just be me! I tried them on and never felt comfortable. So, we threw them in the bottomless pit I called my closet, and went on with our lives!


When I school-choiced/transferred to a new school district for high school, my mother asked, once again, if I wanted to try wearing a wig. I told her that I was worried people would know it was a wig, or God-forbid, it fall off in class... So she supported my decision and I went throughout high school just as I was at the time.


As I grew older and began my journey toward fulfilling my dream of becoming Miss Delaware, I hit a road block. I competed three years in the Miss Delaware Pageant without wearing a wig with some success, always placing as a finalist. But on my third try, a judge approached me after the coronation of one of my dearest friends, to share with me why he felt I didn't win. Ultimately he told me that if I wanted to become Miss Delaware, I should strongly consider wearing a wig. He introduced many valid points in the few moments we spoke- not the least of which was that I could not literally wear the crown on my head without any hair to pin it to.


Naturally, my mother wanted to (insert not-so-kind verb here) him. She was not happy that he had the audacity to make me feel as if I wasn't beautiful just as I am.


I'll admit, I was beyond hurt and offended, and I became a lesser version of myself that summer after the pageant. I made some big, life-changing decisions after that night and was unsure of what to do. I spoke in great deal to my then-boyfriend/current-fiance', my best friends and of course, my parents. Everyone shared the same thing- that they would support me no matter what I decided- whether I wanted to compete again without hair, with a wig, or not compete at all. I prayed about it, slept on it, flipped a couple coins and asked for (way) too much advice!


I let my parents know that I first wanted to try series of cortisone injections that year to hopefully stimulate hair growth. But, the pain was too much for me to bear. My mother and Kevin were by my side at all times, letting me know that if I wanted to run out of the appointment, they would ready the getaway car!


After a very serious conversation with my former Miss Delaware roommate, fond friend, and pageant mentor, Laura Mattey about how I was feeling, she asked me how I would feel about just going to meet with her hair stylist, Mario Rispoli and just try on one wig. She promised me lunch and assured me that she would be by my side the entire time, and that I would never feel pressured to make any decision or purchase that day. I conceded easily and off we went to Salon Rispoli.


My mother could have told me not to go. She could have repeated over and over that I was gorgeous just as I am. But she knew that I already thought I was beautiful. But, I wanted to consider a change. And she trusted me.
The moment I met Mario, I knew I was in good hands. He made me, and my family, feel completely comfortable without any pressure! I asked my mom what she thought, and for a woman whom normally has quite a strong opinion- she just reassured me that it was my decision. She told me to pray about it, think about it, whatever I needed to do- but that it was my decision. We went through the pros and cons- made a couple lists on napkins- you understand. :)


Ultimately, I did decide to wear a wig. I had no idea how we were going to afford it, but with the love and support of family and friends, we made it happen! It was quite a communal effort! And my mother was so thrilled to be a part of the process.


The moral to my story is that, I don't think there is any secret to raising a successful/happy/healthy child. And when life throws you curve balls, like hair loss, you just have to roll with the punches! But, whatever my mom did was perfect for me. She never allowed me to second guess myself, or think I wasn't beautiful. That just wasn't allowed. She was constantly by my side to support me and love me. She let me be the leader when it came to my hair loss, allowing me to be her guide with how to move forward. She kept me active in countless activities at all times, so as to always nurture the things I was good at and enjoyed- even if I was just no good at growing hair! :) Who has time to worry about hair when you are busy with 4-H meetings, ballet/tap/jazz rehearsals, flute lessons, Odyssey of the Mind, and lots of volunteering?


If your child is losing his or her hair, I hope you have taken the time to sit down and have a real conversation about it with them. See how it is affecting them. If they don't want you to come into their classroom, then I suggest finding another way to educate their peers on the condition. If they don't want to go to school without their wig, then support them. If, after ten years of losing their hair, they decide they want to wear a wig- trust in them, and support them. Just be sure they know all of their options, and fully understand their condition- whether it is cancer, Alopecia Universalis, etc. They deserve your honesty, just as much as you deserve theirs. And continue to love them with your whole heart, as my mom has with me- but you already know that! Remember, their way of dealing with it, may not be the same approach you would take- but as long as they find happiness in their own way, I say, accept it!

Please feel free to share or leave comments or stories of your experiences! We are all here to support each other, because we can all go through this together!


P.S. I love you, Mom! :)